Okay lemme break down the three movies for you shall I?
He attempted IN THE MIDDLE OF A GUN FIGHT to reach out to Tony. He then spent military funding and time that was AGAINST ORDERS(technically) to find his friend.
Let me explain what that means. Tony is more important to Rhodey than the soldiers he had command over. Now that’s a really rough way of putting it but Rhodey used his position to find a way BACK to Afghanistan to find Tony Stark a man everyone assumed was dead. FOR WELL OVER A MONTH.
He didn’t ditch Tony. Tony was supposed to be recovering and showed up while Rhodey was working acting erratic. Tony isn’t a soldier so he would have been more likely to succumb to PTSD. Tony was behaving a bit like a mad man because he’d dropped the main source of funding of his company. Rhodey was expressing concern for his friend that he needed to go home and rest and maybe not potentially make his company go bankrupt. Not to mention he probably THOUGHT IT WAS PTSD.
Also can I point out how he held Tony’s arm down off of the carrier? Lets point that out. Lets also point out the loving reunion that they had. The only time Tony has hugged ANYONE in ANY of the movies is with Rhodey and Pepper.
Rhodey kept the skies cleared for Tony, came to his house when he was in danger after Obie attacked him. In a deleted scene(so technically this doesn’t count but it was filmed and written and CGI-ed so…pretty darn close to being canon) Rhodey shows up in the middle of the fight with Obie.
Iron Man 2:
Profusely expressed concern about Tony’s health that Tony brushed off. Came to his aid at a subpoena even though he was supposed to be there to trash Tony.
They make it ABUNDANTLY CLEAR that YOU CAN NOT TAKE THE IRON MAN ARMOR OUT OF STARK MANSION because there are “REDUNDANCIES TO PREVENT” IT. Or were you too busy going hey there are Donuts in this scene to listen to Black Widow?
He doesn’t give the armor to Hammer. He gives the ARMY the armor because it is A) a way to have someone continue being Iron Man after Tony’s death. The ONLY person he trusted enough to do this was Rhodey. Because in Iron Man 1 the first thing Tony does is go to Rhodey and tell him he’s working on something amazing. He wants to show his best friend the shiny new toy he made. He LEAVES Mark 2 for Rhodey to take. Or did you miss “Next time, baby”??
Now about Hammer. Before Hammer gets to the armor Rhodey HIDES the REACTOR. Because the reactor is FAR MORE IMPORTANT than the armor itself. In the hands of Hammer the reactor could literally…just fucking DESTROY EVERYTHING. He doesn’t even give the reactor to the army. He HIDES it to protect Tony’s work.
Also. IDK about you but if I stuck my neck out on th eline for my best friend and then they turned around and betrayed me I’d be pretty annoyed too. You know who else was annoyed and argued with Tony throughout his break down? E-V-E-R-Y-O-N-E.
Like I said before, Rhodey was CRUCIAL to defeating Whiplash. The suit was hacked. You know who else has their suits hacked. TONY FUCKING STARK LIKE EVERY GODDAMNED EVENT(to be fair..this is comics but it still happens)
Oh but conveniently…the entire time that his suit his hacked he’s giving Tony VITAL INFORMATION about what the suit is doing TO PROTECT HIS BEST FRIEND FOREVER AND EVER.
Did I mention that they defeat Whiplash together and not Tony by himself? I must have.
Iron Man 3 -
I’m not even going to go into Iron Man 3 which literally Iron Man 3 is your best choice for your argument about JARVIS/Tony but you chose not to use any of those moments in this ask???
But seriously half the movie is Rhodey and Tony fighting TOGETHER, having a beer and fries together.
But you know? You are absolutely right. Rhodey has never done anything. Anything at all that would be loyal or signs of a best friend.
But you know who has? That little voice that reminds Tony he had Gluten Free Waffles.